Friday, September 10, 2004
Dying for the Want of Love:I sometimes during early morning watch a U.K talk-show called Trisha As you can see if you click on the link, she's been through the mill in earlier life, and I suspect she is a Christian now as well as the TV councellor.
But have just been like looking into a parallel universe by the one section of her show this morn. A mother, along with an older brother, well, the mother says she loves her other son, whose 18, she says it, but does very little to show it. And the brother is making life even harder for the other younger brother by making wedge wider between mother and son. The older brother is a homosexual and a mommy's boy. But, the young guy who was 18, he sat there with that look, the one I know, and when he looked at his mother his eyes were dead. His anger towards his mother and brother, were purpose driven and he knew exactly why he was angry, and basically he was sat out there, with only his 18 year old girlfiend, who said he often cries with greif and despair and has been at times suicidal, cos the natural love a parent should have for there child is just not there. To prove she loved him, at the end, his mother went and hugged her youngest son, and he sat there, knowing not to believe it meant anything, not daring to believe anything else. And Trisha said, don't worry, just take it and don't think. One day she'll hug you and it will mean something. She offered him counselling, both for himself, and with his mother. And she said, you can't change people, but you can change the way you react to a situation. Which maybe true. But my heart bled for that guy. And in some ways, his reactions to things and people on the show mirrored closer to home exactly. Pretty much in every way. The guy was dying at least internally for want of love. He's 18. Will it get better? or when he's twice his age, will he still be grief stricken and in emotional agony from the love not being there. Trisha said when he was so depressed through the situation, he should remove himself from it to survive. And I agree. If not, he will be hitting the self-destruct button, which is like a simmering time-bomb, which is likely to implode at any given time. Craving for love from someone whom it should be freely given, does that to you. But why do parents have kids, and then go ahead and just do the best they can without trying very hard, to mess them up, and destroy there spirit, and leaving the off-spring wishing they would rather they had never been born.
Psalm 27
10 Though my father and mother forsake me,
the LORD will receive me.
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