Tuesday, June 08, 2004
True Love: 
I admit that "love" as in being "in love" is a complete and utter mystery to me. I think animals in that sense are much simpler creatures and have it more right. If they love each other, and then grow apart, they don't hate each other and are not filled with bitterness, anger and outright hositlity to each other. Any offspring from their being together do not get caught in the middle of world war three and become bargaining fodder.
I watch occassionally in a morning while trying to wake up, a TV programme here called Trisha and this show in particular is far removed from your Jerry Springer type thing, as she does genuinely try to help and counsel the people on it. And she's a former mental health patient herself, so knows what its like to hit rock bottom. But anyhow, some times its folks emotional issues being discussed, but more than anything it is relationships. And most of them are either full of distrust, but they are still together, they have parted and full of emnity and hatred to each other, or are sticking at it, but really don't like each other very much at all.
Last Friday was the first time, I ever recall seeing a couple on it, who were obviously in the classic term, "in love" They'd been together a while, but she, tho young, was facing serious life saving brain surgery, and if it all went wrong, she would need constant care the rest of her life. But the guy in her life, wanted to marry her before the surgery, knowing the risks, and knowing that the girl he married, may not be whom he spent the rest of his life with.
My test, (AHA!) for spotting couples who are actually in love and like each other too, when out and about, is if they are holding hands. As most couples do not. They could be strangers, or brother and sisters. But this test is pretty fool proof. (well it would have to be coming from moi!)
But personally, tend to think being in love is highly over rated. Unless you're one of those rare amongst my experience people who find a true soul mate, and one whose heart is united to yours whatever the storm.
And yet I am a romantic. Soppy films have me getting the tissues! But then so do sad animal films! But, love, as I witness more relationships united in marriage, and see the devestation it brings not only the couples but those in their path, makes me glad to be unloved. ;-) and out of love!
Animals could teach us much, in some ways. Not, maybe world changing ways, but how to care for each other and how not for love to turn to hatred. |
